Rocky was the first movie that I drove to the theater and watched alone. I was a Sylvester Stallone fan from that day forward. Today when I heard that Sylvester Stallone’s 36 year old son had died, my heart wrenched and felt great empathy for the whole family. It also immediately threw me back to the PTSD pain where I don’t like to go.
But everything hasn’t been bad or sad for me over the past couple years. Let me tell you a few good things about my life:
- Alyssa is alive.
- I no longer have PTSD flashbacks.
- In this terrible economy, I still have a job.
- I designed my new blog and moved it over from Blogger. I am SO much happier with it now and tremendously enjoy writing my posts.
- My writing and photography “eye” has improved. I totally love all my foodie tutorial posts.
- I know who my friends are and I know who doesn’t give two shakes of a lamb’s tail about me.
- I lost weight.
- I’m still alive.
That’s enough of a list for now. So life hasn’t been a bowl full of cherries, but I’ve done the best I could, learned, improved and keep on trying to do better each day. I think that is the important lesson in life especially when there is one painful experience after the next.
Life isn’t always going to be easy and it definitely won’t be fair. If we can remember to keep on trying no matter how difficult the situation, we will eventually reach the end of the heartache. With my Monday appointment inching closer, I’m scared, excited and hopeful that I will get all of myself back.
You actually don’t even know the WHOLE me because I’ve had PTSD for most of the time that I’ve been blogging. The actually dedication to writing on my blog each day helped saved me from going completely crazy especially because at one point, I really thought I was going to die.
So now I believe that life is a bowl full of cherries that are partly eaten and with pits. There will be great, good, happy, sad, scary, awful, painful and devastating times in our lives. We should take one cherry at a time, spit out the pit and eat the juicy fruit.
What do you think about that proposal?
Skip_D says
I’m with you, totally. One cherry at a time… enjoy the sweet fruit, get rid of the pit, then reach for the next one. Guaranteed. Never more than you can handle at one time. {{{hugg}}} …& repeat 🙂
The Redhead Riter says
Sounds so easy, doesn’t it Skip? I think part of the secret is to take it slow.
Kimberly Snyder says
“We should take one cherry at a time, spit out the pit and eat the juicy fruit.” Excellent advice and right on time for me today. Thank you! I have been forgetting my grateful list lately and it was a timely reminder 😀 Kimberly aka @PIDGEme
The Redhead Riter says
I’m glad it resonated with you today, Kimberly. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.
Susanne says
Great advice. I hope that some day I can take only one cherry at a time. I am so happy for you that you are healing, I’m also inspired by the fact that you can maintain such a positive outlook. There are days, when it’s It’s a daunting task. Monday is going to be a day, that is going to fall under the category of monumental, when you assess your life in the years to come. Just a hunch!
The Redhead Riter says
Thank you, Susanne. Monday is definitely going to be monumental…one way or the other.
Susanne says
Although I’m not known to be “Polly Positive”, I have a good feeling about your Monday appointment. This doctor is going to be “it”.
The Redhead Riter says
Susanne, I’m crossing my fingers, toes, arms…LOL
Ruth Hill says
I think you have accomplished so much. Kudos to you! Love your blog, and I always will. It was one of the first that captured my attention, and I used to think that I wanted to have a blog like yours. Okay, mine is not like yours, but you inspired me to blog!
The Redhead Riter says
THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH RUTH! I’m so glad that I was able to inspire you to blog. {{{{hugsssss}}}}
Sue says
Just yesterday I was thinking about how life is not a bowl of cherries, probably because I was eating cherries, but still, the life is not a bowl of cherries came to mind, then you have this post-that’s eerie!
The Redhead Riter says
It must be one of those Twilight Zone moments, Sue. LOL Maybe it is just that great minds think alike!
jane says
Thank you, I enjoy your words and photos. Such positivity engenders hope!
The Redhead Riter says
Thank you, Jane! I’m so glad you enjoy my blog!
Louise Sorensen says
I agree. There are terrible experiences that don’t leave PTSD, and life is full of them. The only thing we can do is live through them, keep breathing and hope for the best.
Everyone is fighting their own battle, convention tells us simply to say that we are fine. Turns out fine is not only relative, but a moving target.
I hope this third time does the trick for you.
Fingers crossed. Time will tell, for all of us. Huggs.
The Redhead Riter says
Louise, I always wonder why people just say “fine” when many times they are not fine at all. I do not like that we all do it. I always feel like the whole discussion is so fake.
Thank you for your well wishes and definitely keep those fingers crossed! {{{{hugssss}}}}