The saying is something like, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure” or “one man’s garbage is another man’s gold” which both mean that what is of little value to one person, may in fact be of great value to another person.
Many times after a long-standing relationship or marriage ends, your self-esteem can take a beating. The ugly “Why” questions can plague the mind and if allowed to linger, can destroy the positive self-image that you work to keep intact.
A couple years ago I shared a personal story about something that happened to me when I was fourteen years old. During that time, I had little to no self-esteem which was the reason for my foolish actions.
Events in life can throw us back to a point where we feel useless, not needed or undesirable. Often after a relationship ends, people go through all the emotions accompanied with being rejected.
Questions like….
“Wasn’t I enough?”
“Why didn’t they love me?”
“What could I have done differently?”
These types of thoughts soar through the mind, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week.
In order to feel good about yourself again, it is necessary to re-evaluate your worth.
“What are your talents?”
“What makes you different than other people?”
“What have you accomplished so far?”
After being honest with yourself, it will become obvious that you are indeed an original – one of a kind – masterpiece.
In a roadside shop on the way back from the Grave’s Mountain Apple Festival, Alyssa and I examined all the treasures in the store. Well, to me, it was just junk, but I knew that many would not agree with me.
The old saying, that “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” echoed in my mind.
“One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.”
Hmmm….
It is true.
Your wife wants a divorce?
Your husband ignores you?
Okay, fine, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t worth being married to and worth listening to every day. Just because one man or woman doesn’t think you rock the world, doesn’t mean that you don’t rock the world.
It is one opinion out of billions!
Don’t place so much value on one person’s opinion. Instead, believe that you are ___________, ____________ and ______________. Yes, you need to fill in those blanks!
I’ll name three to show you that it isn’t that hard to do.
I am funny, compassionate and intelligent.
See? I did it and it wasn’t that hard. The great thing about my list is that I know it is true!
I may have been discarded as unimportant by one, but I’m definitely going to keep thinking that I am a valuable human being with a combination of talents that only I can offer with my unique style.
Why?
Because it is true!
You are gold, diamonds and sunshine to me. I think you are wonderful, you are my child. You are easy to love, you are everything to my world. With out you I would not be whole. mama loves you
You have a great attitude in the midst of one of life's more painful lessons. But unlike some people in similar circumstances, you are learning from it…and growing because of it.
As I've been telling a special person for the past few weeks…you don't need people in your life who can't love you for who you are, and don't appreciate you. And when they walk out of your life, it just opens the door for someone better to walk in.
Here's hoping for the someone better for both of you. 🙂
I love your attitude. I love your compassion and moxie in and about life. You are a great role model and friend. You have picked me up virtually when I thought I could not stand any longer.
I remember those feelings of self-doubt and wall flowerhood. I have found through out my life that I travel between the extrovert and the introvert and sometimes I hover between but I always seem to experience the part of me I need at the right time and when I get stuck friends such as you always guide me back to center.
For sure it is true! You are a treasure!