Men’s Meme – Husband’s Role

What top five responsibilities do you feel are important in fulfilling your role as a husband?

“How do you like that question?” I asked Tom.

I like that question. It is good.

1. Be available. Be quick to modify my schedule and drop my activities as needs be.

2. Be reliable. Say what you mean and walk your talk.

3. Be considerate. Pay attention and place your sweetheart’s needs ahead of your own. Common courtesy goes a long way to win the day.

4. Be industrious, profitable and enterprising. Remember, we are the hunter-gatherer. Do not faint.

5. Attend to the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of your wife and children.

I can’t believe I gave you this list. I know they are correct principles. Wish me luck.

Yeah, he should be worried now because I am going to refer back to this posting whenever I need validation. Of course, I didn’t choose this question for the reason of using it in the future when the need arose (hiding my crossed fingers behind my back).

I would like to comment on #4 specifically. I believe that as women we often forget that men need to feel like our hunter-gatherer. It is important to their ego and self-esteem to feel that they have the responsibility and ability to care for us. It is in their DNA and we should allow them to fulfill this role.

In the present day, it often takes two incomes to support a family, however, women can still help their husbands take care of them. I believe in being independent, but I don’t think that I have to do everything just because I can. I do not have anything to prove to anyone…most especially my husband. So if he wants to change the oil, wash the car, put air in the tires, fill the washer fluid, and buy the little stem covers for the tires, all I can say is “Go for it!”

I also feel that ultimately my husband has the responsibility for the family. We are his stewardship. I have my role and I do all that I can to make sure that everything flows from day-to-day, but Tom should fill all the gaps that I miss. Not only should he support me emotionally in all that I do, but physically Tom should stand beside me and help. I should have as much free time as Tom has for relaxing fun and he should help ensure that I do too.

Since we are also Christians, I feel that he should be the leader in spiritual matters such as having us pray together, attend church functions and read the written word of God. He is supposed to help his family learn of God and guide them back to Him in righteousness. That is my husband’s ultimate responsibility in my opinion.

Well, that got a little heavy. What do you feel is your husband’s main responsibilities in the family and to you?