I’m brutally honest.
No frou frou. No beating around the bush.
When you want to know my opinion, you get the whole truth.
I would say I am too honest, but I don’t believe there is such a thing.
If asked, I will give you my opinion – my honest opinion. People learn this about me soon. My mom and daughter appreciate this aspect of my personality. Men appreciate this quality, but women…well…
“My opinion” does not equal “what you want to hear”.
So if I leave a comment on a blog that says, “Cute template” or “I love your Etsy store” or “Your child is adorable”…I am being honest.
I live the “Law of Thumper” which says “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.”
With that being said, I do not initiate “the unpleasant opinion” unless asked directly.
Let me give you an example…Let’s pretend that you go shopping for hours, try on close to a hundred dresses, then finally decide to buy the fuchsia one with a large belt and this frou frou thing on the bottom right edge. I see you shortly thereafter and the first words that pass your lips is “Don’t you love my dress?”
Here’s the moment.
Don’t forget, you KNOW me. You KNOW I am going to be honest and I KNOW you KNOW.
I say the same thing I always say…”Do you want me to be honest?”
THAT should be a warning. You don’t heed it.
“Yes!”
Well, you were forewarned, but I am a nice person too so my answer is “No, not really.”
“No!? Why?!”
Why do you push the issue? Do you really want my opinion? Oh heavens! I am one little person on this big planet so surely my opinion can not matter that much. Besides, YOU like the dress and isn’t that all that matters?
“Honestly, the belt is too big, the dress is too tight and that frou frou thing looks like something my grandmother wore on her hat.”
“It does not! I like this dress!”
Now you want to argue about it. I don’t like arguing. You are not going to change my mind. Besides, YOU like the dress. To keep peace, I say nothing.
“Did you hear me?” you ask.
I know how men feel. I think I have the man gene. No wonder women drive them crazy. Can you hear two men get together and argue about whether the large picture of a John Deere tractor ironed on the front of their t-shirt was “kewl” or not?
Nooooooooooooooooo! That is why I say women drive men nuts. When we push men, like my friend with her frou frou, tacky, large, indescribable thingie stuck on the bottom of her fuchsia dress did with me, they think we are idiots.
“Yes, I heard you. I do not prefer that dress over the really cute green one you wore Thursday with those to-die-for-heels.” I try to get her mind off the negative and give her a really good positive compliment. Does she take the bait?
“That green dress is one of my favs! You really don’t like this one? Should I take it back?”
Why do you ask me THAT question? I wouldn’t have left the store with it, so why would I think you should keep it?
“If you like it, then keep it. Does it make you feel happy?”
“Not any more. You think I should take it back because it is ugly. Fine then! I spent hours looking for this dress! I gotta go. See you later.”
Oh, great. You’re ticked off because I don’t like your hideous dress. I’m honest. Did you really expect less of me? I guess if I were a man and you were my wife I would be sleeping on the couch tonight.
lol….i love it! i'm the same way… sometimes people say i'm negative, but only because it's not what they want to hear! i can't help being honest! that story is hilarious!!
LOL luv the post so Truthful and nO I wouldn't give anything less either good for you 🙂
I nominated YOU 🙂
stopping by from the sits to Stalk you today…ooops I mean say hello
lol that is sooooo true! i love honesty but then when i ask my hubby's opinion on clothes or anything i usually never take his opinion LOL which makes him really angry hehe…..oh yes women are complicated beyond comrehension of themselves!
"Does it make you feel happy?"
"Not anymore."
Oh man. Classic.
Loving Thumper… Thanks for your honesty, it is refreshing…
Hello! I'm stopping by from SITS this fine (and very early) morning!
I am right there with you. I hate when people ask for the opinion they know I'm going to give when it's the exact opposite of what they want to hear. Why do girls do that??
What's sad is that I know I do it to other people, too!
Good for you for being honest!!! I am good at encouraging people, but if I can't think of a nice comment, I just don't say anything…this happens sometimes with the SITS featured people…I just say "Happy SITS Day" or something lame. 😉
lolol! I love this!
Stopping by from SITS!
LOL! I am the same way. I follow the "Law of Thumper" (adding that phrase to my vernacular) and the Code of The Original GW (George Washington)-I cannot tell a lie. So when people ask me what I think…don't expect anything less than the honest truth. I don't sugarcoat either.
SITSterly,
Teresha
p.s. how do you make those little hearts in your comments?
No wonder I like you so much! #1 on SITS today…I hate you and I envy you!!
I'm the same way! When people ask my opinion, I always say "Do you REALLY want to hear my opinion? I don't sugarcoat it…" and sometimes they retract wanting to know exactly what I think.
My mom and grandmother were brutally honest and I am too. Just carrying on that family tradition!
Hahahahaha me too, me too.
Stopping by from The Mommy Files- I'm not going to BlogHer this year either. Maybe next year.
I'm going to vote now, good luck!
Stop by and tell me how fabulous I am. Lie if you have to. 😛 Hahahahaha I am teasing. If you can't tell your friends they need deodorant they aren't your friends. 😉
You are too funny! Congrats on being #1 at SITS! Stop by, I posted excerpt#22 of A Sharing of Marital Secrets today!
I'm just like ya! I enjoyed reading this. Blog <3 back to you!!!
Oh you have got to love honesty. My hubby is this way. He will not sugar coat. If you ask "Do these jeans make me look fat" you'd dang sure better be ready to hear the truth, lol.
Your posts make me smile.
I always want people to be honest with me when I ask their opinion.
Me, if you ask my opinion, I'm too worried about hurting your feelings so I'm not so honest.
Very funny – cuz it's so true! Enjoyed your posts – will come back.
Love,
Kelly
LOL, that's too funny! I appreciate that kind of honesty (depending on how it's delivered) 😉
Hey, I always say, "If the truth hurts, take Advil."
Good stuff.
The Man Gene…so true…I've got it too. Great Blog!
LOL – you are totally right. If you don't want an opinion it's not fair to ask for one.
My husband is brutally honest so yah you've got the man gene. No frou frou here.
OK you got me to click the award thingy.
Women dress for women. Men dress for themselves (usually..at least I do). I am so happy to have the MAN gene! LOL
Love the law of thumper!
Honestly! You are hilarious! lol 🙂
I figure if someone bought the dress, she must really like it. So, I would probably try not to hurt her feelings. I guess I don't have that man gene! LOL! I'd say something like, "It isn't my favorite color, but it is very YOU." LOL!
Oh… and I forgot… Happy SITS Sharefest!
Love it! I'm kinda the same way… I believe in complete and total honesty, but I hate telling someone what I know they don't want to hear. So many times I will just nod and smile and go mute… and I love your blog. That's me being honest 🙂